She yells at me,
Doesn't he love his own kids,
Why would he not see them?
I calmly reply,
It is not his kids he left,
It is you.
And she freezes,
Shocked that I would say such a thing
But she is paralyzed with an open ear
And while you protect your heart
From the fear that you will never be loved
You must create the reality that it is the family he abandoned.
She sits down,
Tears rolling down her face,
Having an inkling to resist and remain composed.
So I continue before she becomes self aware.
You were never loved as a kid were you?
You were ignored, daddy left, never felt beautiful.
Streams rolling down her cheeks now
As I continue along these lines
An emotional portal opened directly to her heart.
I sit and wait
And let tears flow
There is healing in tears
And frustration and anger and fear
But she has the security here to cry.
I see her emerge
A new softness surrounds her
She is ready
She looks at me
As if a glimmer of hope
In her eyes lies a question
You see dear,
You are beautiful beyond comprehension
Afraid of your own light
She wipes her face
Sits up straight but still hanging on my words
And you dont need me to tell you
Or anyone for that matter
To know that you are unique, special, beautiful, lovable
She finally becomes aware,
Glances around the room
A new peace is formed
Accept the rejection,
Only through accepting reality can you learn your value
Only when you learn to love yourself can you learn to love others.
<SI> Scott Izu, PhD
Copyright December 2015